This morning at 4:45am, I woke up to take {cv} to the airport. As we rounded our way into the terminal, I just looked at him and smiled. This scene was all too familiar. During our long distance years, those early morning flights were all too common. Truth be told, I was in college--and AirTran knew how to reel in a kid on a budget with $39 flights at 5:00am.
Though I would have never imagined it then, I could not be more grateful for those gut-wrenching early morning departures years ago. {cv} travels on a regular clip for work and I've come to relish in the peace and quiet of a night alone. Would I rather him be here? Absolutely. Is it absolutely amazing to watch The Bachelor, Girls, and Pretty Little Liars on DVR without blinking an eye? You betcha.
As the years pass, I find myself increasingly grateful for the years we spent apart. My 24-year-old self would never believe my 27-year-old self was saying such a thing, but it's the truth. When {cv} leaves for a business trip or I go spend a weekend with my girlfriends, we are able to keep on living. Our worlds don't stop because we're not in the same place. The years we spent long distance taught us we couldn't live that way. Have you found yourself surprisingly grateful for something you used to resent? xoxo {av}
oh yes i sure do. pretty much the same exact thing.
ReplyDeletewhat a great post... and coming at a great point when me and the boy will be long distance again!
ReplyDeleteI know the feeling all too well! My boyfriend of 4 years and I are finally living together after 4 years apart, but he's a Pilot so he's still gone 3-4 nights a week, but it's a welcome exchange from often going 1-2 months apart and living across the country from one another.
ReplyDeleteWonderful post and reminder - that though we love our loved ones, it's ok to do things on our own too!!
ReplyDeleteI know the exact feeling! I wonder if we enjoy "alone" time so much because we had so much of it during long distance days, or we survived long distance because we were capable of alone time! Either way, I love both parts these days, together-ness and alone time!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more! After doing long distance for a couple of years I am learning about not having the world stop when my fiancé leaves. Spending time with friends, getting involved with things in Boston help with not missing him but also feeling like there will be a great life for me to fold him into when he moves here this summer.
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I've never done long-distance, but I know exactly how this feels, married to a medical resident who works 80-90 (sometimes up to 110) hours per week. While he was in medical school it took a little while to learn to live my own life in the meantime - and now, while I relish the time we have together and certainly wish he had more days off, I love my friends and my own interests and my life in general... You're so right that when it's a long stretch (5 years of residency here), this is an important lesson because you have to LIVE in the meantime, and I'm grateful for it too!
ReplyDeleteThat's exactly how the hubs and I are - a long distance romance will leave you with that! Although, after we just spent six months on the road together traveling across America, now we feel weird if we're not together all the time, haha!
ReplyDeleteI'm struggling with this whole dang long distance thing too. IT's nice to read your perspective, it's so easy to overlook it
ReplyDeleteLong distance is very hard- I've done it for many years as well- but it definitely makes you appreciate your partner and your time together. Great post <3
ReplyDeleteI am good for one night when my husband leaves for the exact reason you mentioned, sorta fun to have some time alone and relax with control over the remote. However after that I want him home pronto & most importunately safely!
ReplyDeleteHindsight is an amazing thing. Sometimes you can look back and be so grateful for what you have! :)
ReplyDeleteGreat perspective here :) And yes. A year ago was the roughest time of my life, and while it was certainly tough, it has made right now (the best time of my life) so much sweeter. Enjoy your alone time!
ReplyDeletei totally agree, what you go through in your early twenties prepares you for life ahead! especially in a relationship! :) xoxo
ReplyDeleteI love to hear you say this. I travel for work about once a month. In the begining it was hard to be away but I have learned to enjoy my nights alone. I come home refreshed. You know, distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that.
ReplyDeleteHugs!
Kara
GIRLS. do it. marathon that show and enjoy your YOU time. he'll thank you for watching without him! xo
ReplyDeleteyes! as much as i love road trips, i used to hate the 5 hour drive between Madison and MN when i was in college- seemed such a wasted of time and so tiring for such a short amount of time to be home. now that Michael and i live in madison again and make that same trip to MN to visit my parents, and i am so grateful for those 5 hours to just unwind and chat- it's time that no matter what is spent away from computer/phone/tv/other distractions that we can just spend together!
ReplyDeleteMy husband travels at least 1-2 weeks every month for work and at first it was hard but now I love my alone time!! When he has months that he doesn't travel as much sometimes I get sad because I miss my girly alone time.
ReplyDeleteDistance really does make the heart grow fonder! I also think time on your own helps to establish independence, which is important in any relationship. This was lovely to read and makes me feel proud that other women not only value time alone, but embrace it.
ReplyDeleteIsn’t That Charming.
I am a longtime follower of your blog, but I think this is the first time I've commented.
ReplyDeleteI just had to say how spot-on this is. I remember coming here for the long distance stories with a happy ending when I was struggling with the long distance myself, and now that P and I have been together for half a year (time flies!) I've realized that all those years apart have made me appreciate many things better now. I totally get your feelings about spending a night alone every now and then. And yes, I'm grateful for the early morning road trips back home. There! I never thought I would say it!
Thank you for writing this inspiring blog :)
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