life after long distance.

life after long distance (and how it'll feel when you get there!)

While chatting with a sweet friend last Friday, she told me she clicked through my long distance love stories on a regular basis. I spent the rest of the weekend thinking through how I could better keep this important facet of my blog alive. If Google Analytics tells me anything, it's this: people need more faith in long distance.

{cv} and I will celebrate five years in the same place this June. For the last 55 months, we have had the privilege of waking up next to one another. I call it a privilege because I have little reminders of our long distance days when {cv} travels for work. I hate how cold the left side of the bed is on those nights and I sleep terribly. I always anxiously await when his call before he goes into meetings...just like the long distance days of old. These days apart every so often serve as reminders about what we endured, but in the strangest way, they also give me peace in knowing how strong we are together.

While the acute pain of long distance has finally faded, much of what we learned during our three years apart is still alive in us today. I can tell when he is busy at work by simply hearing the tone of his voice. He can tell if I've had a long day by the tone of my voice when he walks in our front door. Those years we spent on the phone {before the real advent of Skype} taught us to pay attention. I know they always say that hindsight is 20/20, but it is truly only in retrospect that I've learned to love the lessons from our long distance years.

Long distance wasn't all peaches, but we survived. Wherever you are on the long distance spectrum, I hope this post encourages you to keep the faith. In a certain number of years, you'll look back and realize the heartache of your time apart was worth every. single. tear. I know I do. With all of this in mind, I know people desperately need that encouragement. For those of you in need of that hope for long distance, I promise more posts on this topic. For those of you not in a long distance relationship, I hope you'll indulge me every once in a while to share the love to those who need it.

For those who have survived long distance, how do those years apart live on in your daily life? xoxo {av}

P.S. Could your story help others in long distance relationships? Share a bit more about it with me--and you might be on {long distance loving} one day. {If you've shared your story recently, thank you. I'm wading through the submissions now!}

20 comments:

  1. I arrived to your blog because of the 'distance makes the heart grow fonder' series, and it helped me a lot to read the stories of those who also were in a long distance relationship. And now, P. and I are living together! Long distance helped us communicate better with each other, and we are stronger as a couple because of that.

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  2. You featured me and my then boyfriend, now fiance, on your 'Distance makes the heart grow fonder' almost 3 years ago! I just went and reread that and thought about how far we've come! Last year, we moved to DC together right after the holidays and even though he's still a pilot and is gone 3 or 4 days out of the week, it's so nice to have him come home to me, to our dog and our little apartment. We got engaged in July and are getting married in September! Your blog was so helpful during all of those years of long distance knowing that we weren't the only ones doing this!

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  3. This post couldn't have come at a better time. My college boyfriend of 4.5 years and I are in the process of ending our 33 month long distance relationship as he is moving to Charleston, where I live. As excited as I am, I am interested to see how different being with him daily after 2.5+ years apart will be. I am sure there will be some obstacles as we both have gotten used to our daily lives without one another (work, gym, hobbies). But I am excited for that chapter to be closing!

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  4. I love this :) My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years and at least 5 of them were spent apart. But I believe that distance makes the heart grow fonder. I am thankful everyday I get to spend with him because for so many years I couldn't. It puts our relationship in a new perspective and helps me to remember what is the most important.

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  5. I totally just submitted my long distance story. I always love your stories and the ones you post!

    Sarah
    aroseinthecity0.blogspot.com

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  6. I love all of your long distance posts! My boyfriends and I were long distance for the first five months of dating-- it was difficult not only for the time spent apart, but also because our relationship was so new. We've learned a lot about each other, and ourselves, during our long distance stints, but it has absolutely made us an even stronger couple because of it! xx

    liztisch.blogspot.com

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  7. love this! and i cant wait for more long distance posts :) xo

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  8. oh, i remember my hubs and my long distance days! gosh, we would talk on the phone for hourrrrs every night and it's crazy how quickly our courtship moved along since the whole relationship was built on communication right from the get-go. my biggest reminder of those days is when i talk to my hubs on the phone (it's not often that this happens, as texting and gchat are the most common way we communicate when we're away from each other during the normal course of the day). every time i hear is voice through the phone, though, i'm taken right back to those days. it's always a sweet reminder.

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  9. We only spent a year apart before finally moving back in together in the same place, but I really do think long distance can/should make or break you. I'm with you--we learned so much in the time we spent apart, and it's only going to make our marriage so much better!

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  10. This post reminded me acutely of the difficulty of long distance. Now, when my husband travels, I love the initial independence, but as soon as night falls and it's time for bed, I emotionally return to all those nights sleeping alone. I am so grateful for everything long distance gave us but I'm so glad to see him every day.

    I will read every long distance post you publish!

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  11. Yayy! I love this and I hope you pick mine! xo Michelle

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  12. This post resonates with me all too well. My boyfriend and I are going on our 4th year as a long distance couple. Someone once told me that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and I've totally found that to be true with us. Some days are tough...really tough...but every day that we make it through is one day closer to living together.

    I can totally relate to being able to tell when something just isn't right. It's amazing how much you can learn about a person from just talking on the phone with them. We established great communication between one another and I think that is really important in a relationship. It is definitely our strongest attribute.

    Danielle at Framed Frosting

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  13. I'm about to move to Australia to be with my boyfriend after two years of long distance, and I absolutely can't wait. Long distance is hard as it is, but long distance with a 17 hour time difference is a whole different ball game!

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  14. you KNOW I love this series - thank you for keeping it going :)

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  15. What a wonderful reminder to all the LDR couples out there! We're on our 8th month of life in the same city, and it's as blissful as the first month still. :) Thanks again for featuring us last year! I hope we inspired faith in your readers even just a fraction as much as you and {cv} do with every post!

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