you say goodbye.

For nearly two years, I have posted about our journey toward home ownership. About eight weeks ago, I posted about our sheer excitement: we were a month away from breaking ground on our beautiful new home. In the ensuing two months, the market has made itself known and our build is now on hold for the conceivable future. After purchasing the land last fall, you can only imagine how frustrating these developments have been. Sadly, we can't camp out on our little piece of Rhode Island...so we're moving!


In the blogging world, it often feels like everything goes perfectly for everyone. {Am I the only one who feels this way?!} In our case, things did not go the way we'd hoped. Few people seem to talk about those experiences--and I will admit that sharing our "failure" has caused more anxiety than it should.
Now that our move--rather than our build--is on the table, I can breathe an enormous sigh of relief. I can be honest and say that blogging four times a week in the midst of our move just isn't realistic. I would much rather produce three quality posts than four that are a bit thrown together. Friday's Fancies will live on, of course, but I have to spend the rest of June making sure we make the move, all while juggling my day job, this blog, and life

On top of everything else, I am one of the most sentimental people you will ever meet. {cv} and I ended our long distance years when we moved into this apartment. We've lived here for four years--and it truly is home. We started married life in this apartment. We lost our little Lucy in this apartment. We have spent more years here than we have in any place since we left for college. Though I'm thrilled to be moving to a better part of town in a gorgeous new apartment, a small part of me feels incredibly sad to say goodbye.

Though the house may not be in the cards this year, it will be in the future. We were financially ready this year, but the market was not. It is hard to accept, but I'm beyond excited to start this new adventure with {cv}. Sharing this news with you isn't the easiest admission, but it's one I have to make. In the eight weeks since I learned this news, I've struggled the most with how to tell all of you, so finally getting this out is such a relief. You'll get to see some fun progress in the next few months as we transition from one place to another. Get excited. Until then, I appreciate your understanding and encouragement as we close one chapter--and start another.

Thank you for your patience. Thank you for your endless support. Thank you for making me realize everything happens for a reason--even though it's hard to see right now. Thank you. 

I'm learning that saying hello is the best way to go. xoxo {av}

P.S. You can follow along with my new apartment inspiration on Pinterest :)

32 comments:

  1. Good luck Alison! I'm so sorry for all of the struggles you've gone through, but I'm so excited for your move, great to start a new chapter!! Enjoy all the craziness!

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  2. best of luck with y'all's new apartment! i am also very sentimental, so i understand that sad feeling associated with leaving a place you've called home for so long. also, i'm sorry for the struggles y'all are facing with building. hopefully everything will turn around soon :)

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  3. Good luck with everything! I'm sure things are overwhelming right now, but everything happens for a reason and it will all work out the way it is supposed to in the end! Enjoy the last moments you have in your current apartment, but look forward to all of the new ones you'll be making in the new one, and then in your future home!

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  4. Waiting for the right timing is so important and you won't be sorry you waited! Excited to see your new apartment, get excited for a move and having everything fresh :-)
    Can't wait to follow along!

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  5. Oh no!! Where will you be moving to?! I hope that everything works out (and of course it will- because it always does!)

    Keep me updated and we need that coffee date once you are settled again love!

    xx Lynz

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  6. aw lovely lady what a disappointment :( sorry to hear that about your house- but i'm sure wherever you move in the meantime will lead to other great memories while the house is getting ready to happen!!

    can't wait to see where you go and how to make it your own!

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  7. I'm sorry things haven't gone exactly as planned, but I'm very excited for you and the next step in your lives :) I bet your new place is going to be the cutest!

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  8. Everything will fall into place when the time is right, I really believe that. And in regards to being sentimental... we are moving out of the house we have lived in for the past four years a week from tomorrow and I can't stop crying about it. Same as you, our first home together, the place where we lived during our engagement and our first year of being married. Although I am so excited about our new home, I can't help but be sad to let go of this place.

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  9. Good luck with your new place & let me know if I can help with anything! xo

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  10. How disappointing. I'm sure the last few weeks have been difficult for you two. Better things lie ahead. Keep the faith!! Everything happens for a reason and better days await you two.

    Hugs, Mree

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  11. So sorry to hear about the ups and downs you're having with your house. Everything will come together though in the end! I'm sure that wherever you may be moving to in the meantime will still be a great place where you'll be creating lots of new memories! :]

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  12. I know that had to be frustrating. The whole housing market is so insane. Moving is bittersweet for sure. But change keeps things exciting!! Good luck with the move!

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  13. Home-buying (or home-finding, really) is such an emotional process. I was definitely not prepared for that (nor was hubs). We actually had three contracts on the house we had our hearts set on come and go before finally getting word that it was ours (and even then, a technicality was overlooked that should have put our position as first contract in jeopardy, but it was an error made by the contract expert at the agency, so what you can do). What you're experiencing is normal and frank, and you're right that it's not just sunshine and roses (and a quick closing with ribbons and bows), but it makes it all the more sweeter when you finally kick up your heels in YOUR home. :)

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  14. Where are you moving to? Just have to remember- everything happens for a reason! I am a FIRM believer in that :)

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  15. Oh hon - I admire your realness and your honesty. Our little house plans fell through as well, so I kind of know the disappointment you are feeling. I'm trying to remember, as should you, that all the cards that are supposed to fall in place, will.

    Keep your chin up, focus on your family and what's important, and know that you will be taken care of :)

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  16. so proud of you for posting this. xo

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  17. So excited to see how you make this apartment home! You are so optimistic and a great inspiration for rolling with the punches.

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  18. So sorry to hear about your house falling through. Totally brave of you for sharing your journey here. Know that we appreciate your honesty and are thinking of you!

    xo
    Sam

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  19. Good luck with your move! Everything will work out as it should when the time is right :)

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  20. good luck with your move! your new place will be great and the house will happen in time. i am sentimental too, i keep telling my guy that we will live in one house. he agrees, he has lived in the same house his whole life and i never had that and wish i did.

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  21. It's so true - people's lives do seem perfect online! Aww I can't imagine how heartbreaking that news must have been, but something even better will come up in the future I'm sure!

    xo
    www.fitfashionista.com

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  22. Hugs to you! I totally feel your frustration and anxiety about sharing frustrating news (we were thisclose to closing on a house in May, the failing of which was entirely someone else's fault, ugh) - but I'm glad it's off your chest, and you can get excited about a new space anyway! GOOD LUCK!

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  23. I am so sorry. that has got to be beyond frustrating:( What part of RI do you live in? My in laws have a place in Jamestown & we go up pretty frequently.

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  24. I wish you all the best in your new apartment! Things happen for a reason... stay positive :)

    www.glitterarygirl.blogspot.com

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  25. Sorry things didn't work out as planned, but it seems like you're making the best of it. Good luck!!

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  26. i'm sorry things didn't work out as planned :( best of luck with moving!!!

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  27. Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. But things always have a way of working out :) Best wishes in your upcoming apt & it will be great!

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  28. oh no I'm so sorry that this didn't work out! But you have another adventure ahead of you, I'm sure, though it's not the one you'd hoped for, and as you always handle these things with courage and grace I'm sure this will end well, one way or another. Good luck with the move!

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  29. I'm so sorry to hear that it didn't work out. It's not fair and i agree that for some bloggers everything just seems to work out. Rather they just tell us the perfect things and don't share their struggles. We all have our struggles, believe me. I dont' always share everything that I'm going through and I thank you for opening up yourself. IT's not easy. Good luck.

    Don't forget to link up this thursday for my weekly tres-chic fashion link up. Hope to see you.

    Agi:)

    vodkainfusedlemonade.com

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  30. I just recently started following your blog. I am sorry to hear about your troubles with your house building. My husband and I have been trying to buy a house for a few months now and have had many hurdles to overcome... we aren't done yet! I appreciate your open, honest writing as I do sometimes read blogs and feel that others lives are "perfect", it's nice to know that there are still some people who are human and have similar situations as me. I wish you the best of luck with your home and I look forward to reading more posts!

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  31. Thank you for sharing your good times and bad! It's so difficult to share the hard times on a blog. My bf and I are currently looking for our first apartment together and it comes with a lot of stresses (which I'm afraid to write about).
    Thanks for always being an inspiration xo

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